"I’ve heard so much about you!” How many times have we all heard that? For better or for worse, it means something. And at the very least, it starts the conversation off with an unknown familiarity that may be odd yet affirming.
A great reference is as golden as a good first impression. Knowing that someone else has been actively talking about someone or something (you or others) is a great place to start getting to know that person/thing. A best friend meets the other best friend, a mother meets the girlfriend, a distant sibling meets the dog… They all amount to different experiences, yet they all share something so special and relatable. A baseline relationship, if you will.
A great reference is as golden as a good first impression. Knowing that someone else has been actively talking about someone or something (you or others) is a great place to start getting to know that person/thing. A best friend meets the other best friend, a mother meets the girlfriend, a distant sibling meets the dog… They all amount to different experiences, yet they all share something so special and relatable. A baseline relationship, if you will.
Recently, I met one of my girlfriend’s closest friends, for the first time. A meeting highly anticipated was as natural as could be. As if I were hanging out with an old friend of my own from high school. It was a wonderful time, and I’m aware (although she is actually a wonderful person) that the great reference fed that opinion quite a bit. Rave reviews yield optimism.
Conversely, negative words about one from another can create more negative perception toward that person, place or thing. It’s a magnifier, and it isn’t to be underestimated. Trump is a perfect case study. Countless positive and negative references both, create a nation currently divided (even much more than it was 15 years ago). Who kind of likes Coca-Cola but would never buy it if it weren’t for the fact that people do it? *I just rose my hand (in a room alone :p).* The preemptive words that we hear every day constantly prep us for the subsequent actions that we take in later days, each day.
Just another observation, a cognizance, a remark… Whether valid or not, this is my blog. I’m just curious if next time you see the text “job reference” it manifests an entirely new meaning.
Refer along. Or not and just live.
- 7Ply Epic
Conversely, negative words about one from another can create more negative perception toward that person, place or thing. It’s a magnifier, and it isn’t to be underestimated. Trump is a perfect case study. Countless positive and negative references both, create a nation currently divided (even much more than it was 15 years ago). Who kind of likes Coca-Cola but would never buy it if it weren’t for the fact that people do it? *I just rose my hand (in a room alone :p).* The preemptive words that we hear every day constantly prep us for the subsequent actions that we take in later days, each day.
Just another observation, a cognizance, a remark… Whether valid or not, this is my blog. I’m just curious if next time you see the text “job reference” it manifests an entirely new meaning.
Refer along. Or not and just live.
- 7Ply Epic
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